Life as I understand it https://write.outer.tf/life-as-i-understand-it/ Formulating thoughts to move a bit forward... perhaps... Thu, 07 May 2026 13:04:48 +0000 KPI yourself https://write.outer.tf/life-as-i-understand-it/kpi-yourself <![CDATA[Key Performance Indicator is a way to define an advancement. For a target, we have to write what corresponds to: 30%: if only 30% is reached, what do we want to reach? What is the most important part to reach? 70%: the simple minimum we want. 100%: This is the full featured target. It is also over quality.]]> Key Performance Indicator is a way to define an advancement. For a target, we have to write what corresponds to:

  • 30%: if only 30% is reached, what do we want to reach? What is the most important part to reach?
  • 70%: the simple minimum we want.
  • 100%: This is the full featured target. It is also over quality.
]]> https://write.outer.tf/life-as-i-understand-it/kpi-yourself Tue, 10 Dec 2024 20:46:41 +0000 Non-autonomous kids https://write.outer.tf/life-as-i-understand-it/non-autonomous-kids <![CDATA[Operation Snack out Load: Water Dippers Hat Pacifier Food Cuddly toy Emergency kit Sun cream / Jacket Before leaving: Wanna poop or change diaper? #kidsurvival #howto]]> Operation Snack out

Load:

  • Water
  • Dippers
  • Hat
  • Pacifier
  • Food
  • Cuddly toy
  • Emergency kit
  • Sun cream / Jacket

Before leaving:

  • Wanna poop or change diaper?

#kidsurvival #howto

]]> https://write.outer.tf/life-as-i-understand-it/non-autonomous-kids Thu, 01 Aug 2024 19:46:12 +0000 They don't have power over your emotions they only have needs https://write.outer.tf/life-as-i-understand-it/they-dont-have-power-over-your-emotions-they-only-have-needs <![CDATA[We are our emotions. Who can change them has power on us for good, or bad, for wanting it or not. This includes us. It isn't possible to change our own emotions for long by pure will. We need to understand why those emotions arises from which need. Identifying the needs in ourselves as well as in others is how you can move forward. <!-- https://www.psychologies.com/Regards-de-psys/Empathie-sympathie-et-compassion-quelles-differences -- #lifemantra]]> We are our emotions. Who can change them has power on us for good, or bad, for wanting it or not. This includes us. It isn't possible to change our own emotions for long by pure will. We need to understand why those emotions arises from which need.

Identifying the needs in ourselves as well as in others is how you can move forward.

#lifemantra

]]> https://write.outer.tf/life-as-i-understand-it/they-dont-have-power-over-your-emotions-they-only-have-needs Sat, 02 Mar 2024 06:30:54 +0000 Learning in a year more than what could be done in a year https://write.outer.tf/life-as-i-understand-it/learning-in-a-year-more-than-what-could-be-done-in-a-year <![CDATA[Yes, learn from others. One hasn't to do all mistakes themselves. Learn from those who did. lifemantra]]> Yes, learn from others. One hasn't to do all mistakes themselves. Learn from those who did.

#lifemantra

]]> https://write.outer.tf/life-as-i-understand-it/learning-in-a-year-more-than-what-could-be-done-in-a-year Sat, 04 Nov 2023 21:02:11 +0000 Know what is needed, not what has to be done https://write.outer.tf/life-as-i-understand-it/know-what-is-needed-not-what-has-to-be-done <![CDATA[By focusing on what is needed, you are able to adapt and accept tradeoffs and others may respond to your need in a way your didn't anticipated. lifemantra]]> By focusing on what is needed, you are able to adapt and accept tradeoffs and others may respond to your need in a way your didn't anticipated.

#lifemantra

]]> https://write.outer.tf/life-as-i-understand-it/know-what-is-needed-not-what-has-to-be-done Sun, 07 May 2023 20:07:22 +0000 How to debug a toddler? https://write.outer.tf/life-as-i-understand-it/how-to-debug-a-toddler <![CDATA[Could they be hungry? Time since the last lunch? Could their diaper be loaded? Any smell? Could they be tired? The eyes? Dark circles? Could they be too cold? Darker hands? Darker lips? Could they be too hot? Pink cheeks? Could they be bored? Do they consider that you ignore it since too long? #kidsurvival #howto]]>
  • Could they be hungry?
    • Time since the last lunch?
  • Could their diaper be loaded?
    • Any smell?
  • Could they be tired?
    • The eyes?
    • Dark circles?
  • Could they be too cold?
    • Darker hands?
    • Darker lips?
  • Could they be too hot?
    • Pink cheeks?
  • Could they be bored?
    • Do they consider that you ignore it since too long?

    • #kidsurvival #howto

    ]]>     https://write.outer.tf/life-as-i-understand-it/how-to-debug-a-toddler Sat, 08 Apr 2023 20:22:21 +0000     Their context is unknown to you https://write.outer.tf/life-as-i-understand-it/their-context-is-unknown-to-you <![CDATA[Two minutes or two days could be confounded. When they say no, you don't to what most of the time. To the maner, to the actor, to the weather, to ... Don't ignore totally a no, but don't be offended too much. #survival #toddler]]> Two minutes or two days could be confounded.

    When they say no, you don't to what most of the time. To the maner, to the actor, to the weather, to ... Don't ignore totally a no, but don't be offended too much.

    #survival #toddler

    ]]>     https://write.outer.tf/life-as-i-understand-it/their-context-is-unknown-to-you Sat, 08 Apr 2023 19:46:23 +0000     Chat with them, but also tell them that those are no word https://write.outer.tf/life-as-i-understand-it/chat-with-them-but-also-tell-them-that-those-are-no-word <![CDATA[Facing babbles in discussion is exhausting. You are making more than two sides of the communication: you are making your side, then you guess the other side, meaning that you make two or three proposals. It's important to chat with them. No question. Just recognize this as something which could be exhausting. If it is the case, explain, and focus on what matters more for you. #survival #toddler]]> Facing babbles in discussion is exhausting. You are making more than two sides of the communication: you are making your side, then you guess the other side, meaning that you make two or three proposals.

    It's important to chat with them. No question. Just recognize this as something which could be exhausting. If it is the case, explain, and focus on what matters more for you.

    #survival #toddler

    ]]>     https://write.outer.tf/life-as-i-understand-it/chat-with-them-but-also-tell-them-that-those-are-no-word Sat, 08 Apr 2023 19:45:59 +0000     Face the conflict, don't get trapped https://write.outer.tf/life-as-i-understand-it/face-the-conflict-dont-get-trapped <![CDATA[When they are playing by themselves, you may have some time for yourself. If you move too much they may think of you and come or ask something. This could be seen as a trap: if you move then you are not quiet anymore. If you can't do what you want or like while being quiet, then move. Face the trap, they have to learn to see you without needing you. #survival #toddler]]> When they are playing by themselves, you may have some time for yourself. If you move too much they may think of you and come or ask something. This could be seen as a trap: if you move then you are not quiet anymore. If you can't do what you want or like while being quiet, then move. Face the trap, they have to learn to see you without needing you.

    #survival #toddler

    ]]>     https://write.outer.tf/life-as-i-understand-it/face-the-conflict-dont-get-trapped Sat, 08 Apr 2023 19:45:32 +0000     Forcing things to make sense doesn't add sense https://write.outer.tf/life-as-i-understand-it/forcing-things-to-make-sense-doesnt-add-sense <![CDATA[Most of the time, there isn't any logic. They could want to eat and throw the food away at the same time. And cry for help to resolve those needs. You can only satisfy one. If it continues, it's not your fault, they don't know itself what is needed now. They may already have changed their mind by the way. And yet again. #survival #toddler]]> Most of the time, there isn't any logic. They could want to eat and throw the food away at the same time. And cry for help to resolve those needs. You can only satisfy one. If it continues, it's not your fault, they don't know itself what is needed now. They may already have changed their mind by the way. And yet again.

    #survival #toddler

    ]]>     https://write.outer.tf/life-as-i-understand-it/forcing-things-to-make-sense-doesnt-add-sense Sat, 08 Apr 2023 19:43:28 +0000